Self-denial, the willingness to give up personal pleasures for the sake of another – the doctrine is so ingrained in many cultures world-over that when you talk about self-nourishment, self-care it almost sounds like counter-culture.
Skipping meals, skipping pleasures, being hard on yourself, and basically avoiding what your heart desires may seem poetic but are primarily behaviors that spring from and in turn give birth to self-alienation – basically distancing yourself from what you truly love.
Self-loathing may sound like an extreme expression but often springs from a sense of perfectionism that you may have created for yourself or been thrust upon by your environment but which is not truly quite aligned with you or who you are. Self-denial is also about not leading an authentic life.
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